Mental health encompasses the emotional resilience that enables us to enjoy life and to survive pain, disappointment and sadness, and an underlying belief in our own, and others’ dignity and worth. It also allows us to engage productively in and contribute to society or our community.

There are skills and practices a student can learn to improve mental wellness, and as time pass it turn into habits. Following are few tips to instill mental wellness in you:

MAINTAIN A POSITIVE ATTITUDE: Students with positive attitudes are apt to be happier, more successful and found to be more focused. In general, positive thoughts and positive attitude help create a better perspective on circumstances or events in day to day life and in turn help in meeting personal and educational goals.

DEVELOP EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE: Being mentally healthy doesn’t mean never going through bad times or experiencing emotional problems. Just as physically healthy people are able to bounce back from illness, people with good emotional health are better able to bounce back from adversity, trauma, and stress. This ability is called resilience.

CREATING POSITIVES FROM NEGATIVE: A crisis – no matter how big or small – can seem monumental in a student’s life. Take crisis situation as an opportunity. Creative problem solving, like listing the positive things that can result from the problems a student is facing, can expand their options and help to cope and recover from problems.

REMEMBER TO LAUGH: Humor has been proven to be a great stress reducer. Laughing improves physical and mental health, as humor activates the brain’s reward and pleasure centers, generating emotions and relaxing the mind.


Being a student can be stressful enough, but trying to juggle school work and other responsibilities while experiencing stressful life event can drag you down. It is seen that students can work through many challenges and still perform well in school. It is normal for students to feel stress and anxiety from time to time. However, if these feelings persist it has a devastating effect on students’ performance. Anxiety and stress may also manifest themselves physically, causing students to suffer from nausea, rapid heartbeat, dizziness and chest pain.

This year for World Mental Health Day, which is celebrated each year on 10th of October, the World Health Organization and the World Federation for Mental Health have chosen “Psychological First Aid” as this year’s theme.

When you feel anxious, talking about it is a good start. You should know you are feeling anxious because you are confused, self-doubting because of some past event, or having negative beliefs.

Develop healthy sleep habits, be mindful of your meals, have a creative outlet for yourself, engage in good reads, unplugging from technology to develop relationships and better interpersonal skills and exercising regularly helps in producing endorphin. Endorphin trigger positive feeling in the body which in turn helps in having a positive outlook on life.



Years back, *poor illiterate parents* produced 



🔹 Scientists,

🔹 Accountants,

🔹 Lawyers,

🔹 Architects,

🔹 Professors.., whom I will refer to as *Group ‘A’*. 
These *Group ‘A’* Children struggled on their own after Primary 6 or Grade 12, to become notable personalities. Most of them 

👉🏾trekked to school *barefooted*

👉🏾 went to farms

👉🏾fetched water and firewood

👉🏾cared for domesticated animals

👉🏾did some work including trading after school to survive.
Now Group ‘A’ ,who have now become Parents themselves are *producing Group ‘B’ Children*

These group B children are 


🔹 helped in their homeworks or home assignments from nursery school through secondary schools to higher institutions.

 🔹chauffeur driven to very expensive schools or are sent abroad to study.  

🔹they can watch movies from morning till dawn after school.

🔹 they are treated like baby kings and queens.

🔹they don’t do any household chores. 

🔹Food is put on the table for them, 

🔹their plates are removed and washed by parents or house maids. 

🔹They are given expensive cars and clothes, 

🔹not forgetting *big pocket monies to be wasted* !!!.

🔹Their parents help them in doing their assignments.

🤔 In spite of all these, only few can *speak* or *write* correctly. 😏
🤔Group ‘A’ Parents cared for their own *parents* and *children*, Group ‘B’,their Children are still *struggling to find their feet at age 30+*.‼ 

🤔They find it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being helped to think and doing things by Group ‘A’. So they can’t help themselves, their parents or the society. THEY ABANDON THEIR PARENTS IN THEIR BID TO ACQUIRE THE WORLD
😴 *Where do you belong*❓

🏮Reduce the pampering and the unnecessary help you offer your children.

🏮 Let your children *grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength*. 

🏮Let them face the truth and the realities of life. Teach them to grow to become *independent adults.* Teach them to 

👉🏾fear God, 

👉🏾respect others and

👉🏾 develop confidence in themselves. 

🤔Parents, discipline your children to become disciplined adults, *useful* and not *useless.*

(Forwarded message). 


Well the summer vacations are going on and since its extremely hot outdoors we are stuck indoors, only heading to malls to kill our boredum. 

That said. Now how to keep my two busy is the biggest challenge so that they dont feel down. 

Apart from being hungry after every half an hour (Yes! You heared me right “half hour”) and providing constant supply for something that they find indulging and yummy, we actually are doing other things too 😃


Madagascar, Penguins of Madagascar, All parts of Home Alone, my personal favourite; Inside Out, all parts of Toy Story, Planes, Cars, Finding Nemo, all parts of Kung fu Panda, Beauty and the Beast, Tangled, Frozen a never ending list, which I also love watching. 😍

We started by having surprises each day, like painting on canvas, having a bath tub playing day, movie surprises, heading go mall for game zone. It did work for a while until I ran out of ideas to surprise them. 

Here are the pics of their canvas painting.

Have to do more of this because they love and keep them busy for good 3 hours including the clean ups.

We are doing books reading these days:

This series of BUNNY SAYS is really good for social emotional development of children. The easy language makes its easy for the my elder to read for his sister. The funny part is that they discuss what they are doing and how they can improve, which make me proud of them الحمد لله   😄

Than the Quran stories which I read for them and explain to them. Than we relate to what they learn in their school and what mummy teaches them about islam.

These books are interesting and engaging, especially the BRAIN QUEST. It contains different portions for English, comprehension, science, maths, social studies. Covering wide variety of areas based on worksheets. 

Waiting for the weather to get better so that we can play outdoors without getting ourselves dehydrated and having a sunstroke. 


Few years ago I was very interested in HAPPINESS. Used to read a lot what happiness means and how to be happy, it was in search of answers as to why people are not happy, why they tie their happiness to material things, and to people???

Well actually HAPPINESS comes from WITHIN.

Its just not a state but a way of living! YES, really!!!!

I got this book back in 2004 and the author wrote interesting ways through which people can bring in happiness in their lives.


In my pursuit to happiness I got interested in the idea of differences in males in females and specifically in married people and their happiness levels. Whether the happiness is tied to being married or remaining unmarried. I did a research along with my teacher Dr. Anjum Jehangir to explore the topic. It got published in JOURNAL OF SOCIAL SCIENCES & HUMANITIES (3rd in the contents).



Happiness is the way you think, feel and behave and how you attribute it to things and people and environment as well. Happiness is living a healthy life, thinking positive thoughts, doing things that cheer you up, helping people, being understanding and foremost finding it daily in small things.



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I believe in this saying.

I think when you share people’s problem, listen to them with open heart, give a shoulder to cry on and supporting them in whatever you can, you make them happy and ultimately it bring HAPPINESS to you.

HAPPINESS doesn’t mean that you have account full of money, a luxurious home to live in, perfect kids, perfect spouse and a dream job.




Content with what you have, no matter how little it is. And still you care for others you help them out in their lives and still keep on moving with yours. THAT IS REAL HAPPINESS.

Carrying out small ACTS OF KINDNESS and SMILING at people to show them love and care makes your day. IT WORKS FOR ME.

I am alhumdulilah what I always wanted to be, and each day I try to achieve whatever is there in my capacity no matter how big or small it is, to spread happiness, to make people feel loved, and cared for.

It brings back immense HAPPINESS when people say that thank you you made my day, thank you for listening it means a lot, thank you for guiding we will try it out, thank you for just being there. I feel so blessed and I thank ALMIGHTY ALLAH for choosing me to do something for humanity, though its not much.

It gives me solitude, brings peace to me.

We just need a good smile in morning to make us feel better, a pat on the back that we are not alone, a compassionate hand to know that we are not walking alone, a good greet to realize that we can make it.

Every small gesture counts, a small act means a lot, it will become a habit, a behavior and will impact the society and community where people give a helping hand to each other in order to spread HAPPINESS.


  •  Saying a Happy HI!
  • Greet people GOOD MORNING even when you don’t know them.
  • Be a listening ear.
  • Thank people even for smallest gestures.
  • Give gifts.
  • Be a helping hand.
  • Support your community.
  • Inspire others by your smile.
  • Help out people who are in need.
  • Reach out to those who work for you.
  • Be understanding of others view, and don’t be judgmental.
  • Be some ones SUNSHINE.
  • Be a SILVER LINING in some ones cloud.
  • Be a LIGHT for some one in need.

So, don’t wait for HAPPINESS to come to you.



We find it difficult most of the time to manage our stress and are unable to cope with situations that keep on arising especially when we are on job.

This workshop that I gave to the teachers for managing stress can be found on the link that I am posting. Simply click on the link and go through the presentation.

The PDF copy of the presentation is here: