“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” ― Marcus Aurelius, Meditations.
The concept of enriched life varies from culture to culture, and from people to people. Happiness involves feeling contended, satisfied, love, and joy. Happiness is the most basic form of satisfaction with life and oneself. Chance factors like personal tragedies, illnesses do affect happiness level, but are not long lasting, as you pop back up to usual self when that particular phase passes. Anything which is directly related to the person, like family, friends, and economic stability affects one’s happiness level. We as humans are social animals, and tend to contribute happiness to interpersonal relationships.
Happiness is related to coping strategies and habits of a person, how well equipped the person is to deal with obstacles in life. Most of us seek happiness from their surroundings, associate it to people and to things in the environment. Getting a good job, having a raise in salary, marrying someone you always dreamt of, having things that you always wished. We keep on asking ourselves whether we are happy or not? And by acquiring a certain thing would we be happy? But the reality is that we spend a large portion of our time thinking and working on ways which we think that will make us a happy being. Do you really think that it resides outside and is an external factor? I differ that theory. Happiness is an internal factor, and resides in you, which we can switch “on” and “off” depending on your present circumstances and mood. No one can be happy round the clock, but we certainly can shift our mood, from being gloomy to a happy one.
Having a positive mind set, feeling contended of what you are doing presently, or what you have in your life, makes you happy. There will be no end to unhappiness and broody mood if you keep on ignoring what you have, and pondering what other people or your friends have in their life. Life is not about comparisons on every step with every person you meet, it’s about staying in present and feeling connected to your inner self, which lead to feeling of happiness. You feel down just by the idea of thinking it up. Why not think of it in this way that, while doing your chores, you can plan for your next assignment, or simply relax being yourself. You can easily sort out your thoughts make plans for your future course of action; it’s a kind of meditation. There is no fixed thing that will define happiness nor can one relate to things for being happy. When we are young, we think that falling in love with someone, and marrying that person will make us the happiest person. But the reality is different, it never happens that way. We have to find a job to have a stable life, and then we struggle to earn more, each time thinking that after accomplishing this step the happiness will be ours to enjoy. Yet we are left feeling more burdened. And our thirst for happiness is not quenched, as we keep on associating our happiness with people and things. We stop living in present, and enjoying what we have presently, ignoring how many blessings we have, and how many people really care for us. You will never be happy if you keep thinking what it might be like if things happened differently. Break the rut of thinking and wanting things, of forgetting your loved ones, your family and friends. As a day will come when things are not the same, and then you will wish to have them back in your life. Stay contented of what you have and most importantly see the positive side of things rather focusing on negativity of the situation, or finding out negatives in people. Because believe me you too have so much negative aspects in your personality.
Learn to appreciate even the worst situation, and what lesson it taught you.
“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” ― Dr. Seuss.
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. ~Francesca Reigler.
Learn to appreciate the positive things in people, in the situation that you are dealing with, the beauty that surrounds you. Change the way you think, and there is no doubt, and I reassure you will feel happy and light.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” …..Abraham Lincoln.
“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” ― Aristotle.