We all know that no one is perfect!
Perfectionism is an unrealistic statement. Well it means that we succumb to making mistakes as we move on in life. There are many scholars around the world who draw our attention that making mistakes is the beginning of creativity, as it open our mind to think in a different fashion from what our mind is accustomed to.
Mistakes help us in discovering about ourselves, our limits, our capabilities, it enlightens us about what we can achieve and what is beyond our capabilities. There is no such thing as playing safe. If we don’t make mistake we don’t improve ourselves.
BUT, yes the important thing is what we learn from our mistakes and what we do about it. Mistakes give you possibilities to improve. But never admitting your mistakes and justifying the bad decisions, means that you are running away from your responsibilities. OWN your mistakes and your DECISIONS willingly.
LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES OF OTHERS.
Problem solving, whether we are working on a task or assignment at hand, working on a school project or it is our daily life problem that we come across with, the skills or interventions that we use underline our capability to solve them. These generic skills extensively contribute to the solution of any problem. It is not always easy to find solution for our problems, by identifying them and solving them rationally makes things easier for to us to deal with. Problem solving involves decision making, it is not only implementable in academic achievement but is of importance in our life.
EFFECTIVE PROBLEM SOLVING STEPS:
v Identifying what the problem is.
v Recognizing your emotional responses to it.
v Rationally thinking about the problem.
v Devising a plan.
v Action plan.
While solving problem you will come across various solutions for your problem, analyze the one which is more effective in the long run. Focusing on short term problem solving leads to more problems later on.
Moving up in higher grades each year demands a time for you to settle down. Transitions are smooth and easy for some students while for others they are stressful and way to demanding.
As we all know transition keeps on going, where we pass through numerous biological, social, environmental and psychological changes. Each stage has its own demand, where we seek opportunities to master and demonstrate new skills, where we want to make independent decisions, form social relationships with our peers and the people around. Transition brings with it more peer pressure, developmental differences, added responsibilities and much more.
We have to deal with new responsibilities, think of school achievement and success. The factors that help are motivation, self-concept, the readiness to take up new challenges, dealing with problems effectively, being innovative in our thought, and rigorous in our approach. And it would certainly not hurt us to get help from an adult.
Children earn status in school depending on their performance. They also experience failure and frustration, especially if they are less skilled than their peers. (The Development of Children Ages 6 to 14. Jacquelynne S. Eccles).
Never let yourself down, be discouraged, or frustrated, rather keep on trying, and do your best, and that too in order to achieve and excel.
Recently I read a book named “The Little Guide to Big Changes” by Sarah M. Collins, and by the time I was done with the first chapter Enliven your life through conscious change I began to ask myself questions.
- Am I satisfied with my life?
- Do I feel that I am trapped in any way in the present circumstances?
- Am I frustrated, depressed or stressed out do to the happenings?
- Is the thought of future makes me anxious, to the level of effecting my health?
Indeed change means that you are going to experience something which is new, something that might be beyond your control or power, probably a situation with which we are not familiar with. This thought makes us reluctant and we become scared of taking a plunge into the unseen. This thought of unfamiliarity stops us from changing our situation, ourselves, and our conditions.
It is the unknown that causes discomfort, because we always find solace in the knowing. Things or situations and I would add here people as well, with which we are familiar with or that are predictable are more easy for some people to tackle. While there are others who want to break free of this masochistic way of thinking. Those who are stuck and are reluctant in changing their life or not able to take a decision, might be finding peace in all the things that are unpleasant. They feel safe in the miserable situations and continue on to be there rather than moving ahead with confidence and taking up the unknown.
Stop and think that if you break free of it, make a decision to change something in your life, and going to venture in the unseen, provided that you give time to settle the new situation or new experience you might actually feel better and you will feel accomplished. The real growth comes with change, when you are motivated to change your present for a brighter future or a better situation, or for a better opportunity. Even small steps will have a big impact on your life. Small decisions lay down the future pathways.
Start from inside what you want from yourself, from your surroundings, what you want to experience in life, what your aspirations are, are you willing to do something worthwhile in your life????
Bring things in perspective and start the transformation.
There are times when we are too busy, even to look around us or give to ourselves. Well we do have a motive behind it. It might be due to the reason of our work, responsibilities or situations or life happenings that we forget to think about ourselves. We leave and we move away from our own being, never finding time to look into the inner self, which is long forgotten.
Stop and introspect, and think what you have been missing. Learn to value yourself, see what motivates you, what you love doing, what makes you happy, keeps you contended and relaxed.
Time keeps on going and is never stopping. But among all the life happenings, stop and think about yourself, it will help you many things that you are probably neglecting, like, your health. When we introspect and look for reasons, we do find answers and in them find solutions for the problems we are facing. We learn new ways of problem solving, and in the process somewhere find our comfort zones, our real self which is long forgotten.
So, take time out for yourself, take yourself on a date and find yourself, it will make things easier for you.