In order to develop EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SKILL, it is important to develop EFFECTIVE LISTENING SKILLS. Our personal relationships need effective listening skills to face complicated concerns and issues and the same is important in our professional lives as well.
For developing effective listening skills the first step is to be aware of the barriers to effective listening. Once we are aware of those barriers we can start working on eliminating them so as to have long lasting relationships.
Barriers to listening are present in our communication. Anything that stops concentration and allows our mind to wander off the topic must be recognized and eliminated so that a successful and meaningful conversation takes place.
- Filtering: Listening to only selected thing while ignoring others. You listen what you want to hear.
- Distractions: Fidgeting, doodling, yawning or looking around while someone is talking to you.
- Rehearsing: You do not pay attention to listening because you are busy in rehearing what you are going to say.
- Judging: When we stop listening to the other person as we already have made up our mind about them.
- Daydreaming: When we stop listening and allow our attention to wander to other things and not paying attention.
- Identifying: Everything that you hear from the other person reminds you of your own experiences. You start telling about your experience before the other person can finish.
- Advising: You start advising the person and do not hear more than a few sentences.
- Derailing: We tend to derail the topic when we get bored with the topic.
- Mind reading: Instead of paying attention to what is being said, you try to figure out what the person is thinking and feeling.
Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain.
Academic Integrity is the commitment to honesty, trust, respect and responsibility. It means if you are given an assignment, a project, you will do it with honesty. You will not cheat or plagiarize the assigned work. It is the fairness to the learning environment. Academic integrity reflects your hard work and effort that you put in accomplishing the task that is given.
Learning echoes as growth in school. The more you learn, explore and research, the more you become aware of self and the world around. Academic honesty is the foundation stone for learning process.
If you are academically dishonest and cheat, you are depriving and cheating yourself of the opportunities to learn and grow. It erodes the values and principles ultimately leaving you with no shame or self-respect.
You as a student can avoid academic dishonesty by:
- Planning ahead and using the time wisely.
- Taking guidance from teachers.
- By learning beforehand.
- By testing yourself.
- By keeping track of your progress.
Are you in a hurry to get something done? Are you in a rush to complete your assignment? Are you being impatient with someone, not capable enough in your group? Are you losing your patience because you are not getting the required results?
Patience is an important Life Skill. Patience is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay or frustrations without getting upset or agitated. It is the ability to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficulties. Patience leads to emotional freedom which is a lifelong practice. In order to shape your talents and abilities you must deal with patience with yourself and with others. Keep on making the efforts until you master.
“It is not necessary for all men to be great in action. The greatest and sublimest power is often simple patience.” – Horace Bushnell.
Patience helps us in seeing the problem in a positive light, which we were unable to see when we were frustrated. Reframing the situation and the matter at hand can be viewed in a positive light only when we deal with it patiently.
Relax when you are engulfed with situations that seem too bleak to be resolved. When you have control over your emotions you are in a better position to see the situation and to deal with it in an effective manner. You avoid making hasty decisions. As at that time you know how to approach a problem and how to overcome the obstacles.
“One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life” (Chinese Proverb).