SPREADING HAPPINESS

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I believe in this saying.

I think when you share people’s problem, listen to them with open heart, give a shoulder to cry on and supporting them in whatever you can, you make them happy and ultimately it bring HAPPINESS to you.

HAPPINESS doesn’t mean that you have account full of money, a luxurious home to live in, perfect kids, perfect spouse and a dream job.

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NO!!!!

HAPPINESS is spreading HAPPINESS.

Content with what you have, no matter how little it is. And still you care for others you help them out in their lives and still keep on moving with yours. THAT IS REAL HAPPINESS.

Carrying out small ACTS OF KINDNESS and SMILING at people to show them love and care makes your day. IT WORKS FOR ME.

I am alhumdulilah what I always wanted to be, and each day I try to achieve whatever is there in my capacity no matter how big or small it is, to spread happiness, to make people feel loved, and cared for.

It brings back immense HAPPINESS when people say that thank you you made my day, thank you for listening it means a lot, thank you for guiding we will try it out, thank you for just being there. I feel so blessed and I thank ALMIGHTY ALLAH for choosing me to do something for humanity, though its not much.

It gives me solitude, brings peace to me.

We just need a good smile in morning to make us feel better, a pat on the back that we are not alone, a compassionate hand to know that we are not walking alone, a good greet to realize that we can make it.

Every small gesture counts, a small act means a lot, it will become a habit, a behavior and will impact the society and community where people give a helping hand to each other in order to spread HAPPINESS.

START BY:

  •  Saying a Happy HI!
  • Greet people GOOD MORNING even when you don’t know them.
  • Be a listening ear.
  • Thank people even for smallest gestures.
  • Give gifts.
  • Be a helping hand.
  • Support your community.
  • Be POSITIVE.
  • Inspire others by your smile.
  • Help out people who are in need.
  • Reach out to those who work for you.
  • Be understanding of others view, and don’t be judgmental.
  • Be some ones SUNSHINE.
  • Be a SILVER LINING in some ones cloud.
  • Be a LIGHT for some one in need.

So, don’t wait for HAPPINESS to come to you.

START SPREADING HAPPINESS AROUND YOU WHEREVER YOU ALL ARE, IT WILL ULTIMATELY COME BACK TO YOU AND YOU WILL FEEL IMMENSE PEACE.

ACADEMIC INTEGRITY

Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain.

Academic Integrity is the commitment to honesty, trust, respect and responsibility. It means if you are given an assignment, a project, you will do it with honesty. You will not cheat or plagiarize the assigned work. It is the fairness to the learning environment. Academic integrity reflects your hard work and effort that you put in accomplishing the task that is given.

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Learning echoes as growth in school. The more you learn, explore and research, the more you become aware of self and the world around. Academic honesty is the foundation stone for learning process.

If you are academically dishonest and cheat, you are depriving and cheating yourself of the opportunities to learn and grow. It erodes the values and principles ultimately leaving you with no shame or self-respect.

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You as a student can avoid academic dishonesty by:

  • Planning ahead and using the time wisely.
  • Taking guidance from teachers.
  • By learning beforehand.
  • By testing yourself.
  • By keeping track of your progress.

BE KIND

You are unique!

No two individuals are same, other than few similarities. Well, that seems to be a good thing, otherwise life would be dull and uninteresting.

When we are interacting with others we should remember to have our own style better to call it “have our own BEAT”. And while we are at it we should remember to be caring and kind to others.

Be comfortable

Be in your own skin and proud of yourself.

Express yourself

Share your feelings and your ideas.

Accept everyone

Everyone is unique. Respect!

Treat others fairly

Be just to all.

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MENTAL HEALTH DAY

World Mental Health is yearly celebrated on 10th of October around the world. This day is celebrated to raise awareness of mental health issues by World Health Organization (WHO).

This year’s World Mental Health Day focuses more on SCHIZOPHRENIA. According to WHO, Schizophrenia affects 21 million people world wide. WHO brings into light SCHIZOPHRENIA so that necessary steps can be taken to help people suffering from schizophrenia and other severe psychological disorders.

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Mental Health is just not something that deteriorates all of a sudden, but progresses with time. The onset of mental health problems is a crucial time, which may not be understandable in the beginning. The DEPRESSION or STRESS we faces in our life have a huge impact of our MENTAL WELL BEING.

Though a lot of awareness is created through different forums, yet MENTAL HEALTH PROBLEMS are stigmatized, which makes it difficult for the suffering person to seek help. People who suffer are reluctant to speak about their problems because of embarrassment, or because that they will be stigmatized as MENTAL or they have to face humiliation.

We can bring in a positive change just by being more open and accepting without judging a person, just reach out to the people who are suffering or are going through a tough phase, be it DEPRESSION, STRESS, INSOMNIA, ANXIETY or other mental health problems. We can provide a helping hand to such people by identifying the stress the person might be going through or friend who tell us that they are depressed, instead of mocking them or disregarding their emotions we can at least hear them out, give positive suggestion or guide them to seek professional help.

We can make lives easier for people who are suffering by providing a helping hand, by being supportive, by being understanding.

A CUP OF OPTIMISM

In our daily life we go through lots of experiences and some of us might learn few lessons from them too. Some of our experiences forces us into thinking negatively and we forget to see the other side of the fence. Thinking positively is just not laid in front of us, REMEMBER THAT!
We have to train our mind to be optimistic and be positive, look at the brighter side of the picture.

The great example is of the glass filled with water.

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How we view it is up to us completely. Seeing a glass half full, portrays a positive mind set. It depicts good and sound health. Such people have a better vision for the future as they are motivate to achieve more rather than thinking negatively which on  the other hand demotivates them and they ultimately perform low. 

People close to me notice the positivity in me, that I don’t feel low. Well YES! I don’t. It doesn’t mean that there is nothing wrong that happens or all is perfect (which we all know that nothing can be perfect). I simply keep on filling myself with a dose of optimism which keeps the pessimism away. And apart from it all, I try to fix the things that went wrong, or try to keep myself away from people who are cry babies or have a tendency to be negative all the time. 

Don’t blame yourself for things that went wrong because of someone else’s decision. That was on the first place out of your control. There is always something better coming your way even in the gloomiest of situations. Remember you alone are responsible for your happiness and you alone can make yourself happy. ALL STARTS FROM YOU. Optimistic person will find a silver lining in the cloud even in the darkest moment while a pessimist will cry even on a happy day.

  • think positively.
  • have an action plan.
  • be in company of positive people.
  • be active.
  • let go of things that you can’t control.

THINK DIFFERENTLY. 

  • “If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.”

    —Milton Berle.

    • “A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”

      —Sir Winston Churchill.

    • “Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.”

      —Anthony J. D’Angelo.

ARE YOU HAVING A LOW OPINION OF YOURSELF?

 “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. Eleanor Roosevelt.

 

Independent of your successes, failures or the opinion of others, the way you appreciate, value, accept yourselves is SELF-WORTH. Self-worth means that you have a favorable opinion of yourself and that you believe that you have a right to feel positive of yourself. And for doing so your actions, thoughts and beliefs are the milestones.

 

If you are experiencing or going through:

 

□       Low feeling.

□       Depression.

□       Mood swings.

□       Feeling bad about being judged by others.

□       Not able to control/handle situations.

□       Dissatisfied with self or life.

□       Feeling of helplessness.

□       Unable to maintain social life.

 

It means that you are having low self- worth and you need to take actions to improve it.

 

If you are having low self-worth, you certainly can change your current state.

 

  •   Only you are responsible for your success.
  •   It’s okay to make mistakes.
  •   Only you have control on your future.
  •  Positive thinking leads to positive actions.

 

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Give meaning to your life and live a happy life.

THINKING NEGATIVELY

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We do face the problem of negative thinking. It might be due to any incident or event that has occurred and we find ourselves in the midst of negative thinking pattern. Sometimes it is so over-powering that it controls every aspect of our lives.

Personal beliefs, our principles and morals are the basis of our thoughts. Our low mood triggers negative thoughts and forms a chain reaction if we are unable to identify and stop it.

Become aware of your thought processes, simply acknowledging that they exist, helps in managing the negative thoughts. Our thoughts are automatic and fast, they keep on popping up and bombarding us, more so when they are negative.
 Thoughts that are more stressful or depressing should be dealt with first. Think about it, as they are the root cause of your negativity. When our beliefs are not matched with the outside world the distress creeps in. Identify the cause behind stress, despair and depression.
 Negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. If you are depressed you will be thinking of negative outcomes, like failure in exams, unable to submit assignments on time, inability to concentrate, hopelessness etc. In order to break free of this destructive negative thinking pattern, become aware how they work and on what bases.
 Beliefs and values should be your main focus, as to see from where negative thinking is generating. Try to get control of things and situations before they become over whelming.
 Be optimistic, as it plays a key role in addressing negative thinking. The optimistic person accepts the facts and searches for solutions, while a pessimist attributes the factors that are not even in the situation, thus making the problem bigger than it was in reality.
 Focus on positive emotions and feelings, and replace the old thoughts by it. Think creatively and positively of the solutions, set achievable goals, and move away from negative triggers in the environment. Manage your negative emotions and feelings, this takes time, and your stress or depression will not simply vanish after it. But you will learn how to be a positive thinker.

If you continue to be negative, you will be attracting more negativity in life.
Let go of it and surround yourself with positive thoughts, you will be much happier.

CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT THE EASY WAY

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Every day I hear about the DO’s and DON’Ts of CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT. Teachers complain that they are not able to handle their class effectively and due to which the lesson that they have to convey suffers a lot. Classroom discipline certainly do plays an important role and is the teachers number one priority. 

The educators are of view that discipline is the key for effective teaching. And it is the number one reason for TEACHER BURNOUT, adding to dissatisfaction, depression and anxiety. 

Classroom management stands for a variety of techniques, methods, or skills employed by the teacher in having an organised class, disciplined students, who are active listeners, are attentive, and focus on academics, to be productive and enthusiastic in class. 

If in a classroom the classroom management techniques are implied or carried out effectively, the behavior of the students improves and it in turn enhances their study skills, keeping them more engaged in lesson. 

It is a general believe that effective teachers display effective and strong management skills in class, while teachers have display short comings in classroom management tend to have an indiscipline class.

Teachers role in a class is of a facilitator, one who acts as a moderator between the lesson and students. The body language of the teacher, the material the teacher uses to enhance the lesson, and the environment the teacher creates tend to bring a whole new positive energy in the class. 

On the other hand if the material or activities used for supporting lesson are not effective, the lesson is poorly designed, not engaging or interesting, or the expectations are not clear, leads to major let down for the whole lesson. The students loose the interest, there might be an increase in behavioral problems, aggression or frustration might generate.

Classroom management strategies are just not something that can be written on the paper and to be strictly followed, though I will be focusing on a few in the end. Classroom management is nothing sophisticated, the presence of mind, patience, creativity, a positive attitude and a passion for the profession keeps the water flowing. 

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To start with:

  • Develop supportive and caring environment with and among the students.
  • Organize the class, and lay down the objective of the lesson.
  • Use appropriate interventions to handle inappropriate behavior problem of students, and deal with situation positively and patiently.
  • Focus on developmental needs of the students, improve on social skills among the students to make the classroom environment positive. 
  • Develop and focus on INDIVIDUAL BEHAVIOR PLAN with help of counsellor.
  • Work with incentive charts or grading charts in class, or any method that let the students know what is desired from them.

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  • Focus on positively handling the situation, instead of resorting to child abuse.
  • Reinforce for positive behavior and restrain from negatively reinforcing the negative or inappropriate behavior.
  • Make use of token system for approved behavior.
  • It always serves to have a regular class routines, one which the students feel comfortable in, and know what is expected of them, as it makes it easier for them to settle down and the teacher can begin with the lesson.
  • Assign responsibilities to students for certain tasks, especially for the students who you think tend to disrupt the class. It will keep them engage in something positive. 

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CONSCIOUS PARENT

Conscious parenting means to engage actively and consciously in all the aspects of parenting. Conscious parenting involves the “being” aspects of life unlike the “doing” aspects. It emphasis growth, truth and presence, and is an ongoing journey with lots of commitment.

Conscious parenting is not the traditional way of parenting, conscious parenting is a more engaging way of connecting with your child, acceptance, understanding, building confidence, thus developing a positive experience. Freedom for expressing ones feeling, providing empathy, guiding through examples, self-regulatory behavior, and developing a bond of parent child relationship.

Parenting is a difficult task, when we ourselves are snowed with lots of work, whether its our work or other tasks at hand. Parenting in itself is an art, a way of learning for ourselves, and certainly cannot be learned through books. The way everyone is different, in the same manner are the children, each having their own demands, their own nature.

It is typical of parents to punish the child for behaviors that are not accordance to them, without noticing and becoming conscious that this will reinforce the wrong behavior, and it strongly emphasizes conditional love. As a parent we must understand that disciplining cannot be done by putting conditions. We often put conditions, give threats for undesirable behavior, give punishments. Parents must learn and practice not to issue threats and the likes, rather raise independent, self-motivated children, those who are not driven by threats and punishments rather raised with conscious love, understanding, and caring. Knowing what their limits are and have an in-depth knowledge of their own personalities, understanding the reasons behind their own emotions, and of their child. Conscious parents do not focus on the problems, they try to find out the causes or reasons of certain behavior, and resolve them, without been judgmental.

While parenting, it is important that both the parents are on the same page of parenting. If the parents have different views of parenting a child, it creates conflict, and the child become confuse, as to what he/she should follow or listen too, or for that matter behave. The parents must discuss their ideas of parenting, how to approach a certain problem at hand, how to resolve a conflict, what approaches they think are conscious and reflects in the child.

Demanding some behavior from your child, without exercising it yourself is unjust. Parents are the role model, if you want your child to be disciplined, loving  understanding, helpful, independent, you certainly have to exercise everything yourself, as children are our mirror. children follow more the unspeakable language and learn more from it, than words that are said. Meaning of the actions and the way you express yourself speaks volume, and the child learn all of these without you consciously telling them. It is always wise to take a moment to think and analyze your anger, which is directed to your child, and you will surely calm yourself, when you try to understand the underlying cause of it. 

I am listing few websites that I came across, and would like to share here:

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SUCCESSFUL RAISING

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There is no fixed formula or pattern to raise a child. The parenting styles varies from child to child, depending on the nature of the parents, availability of the parents, and the nature of the child.

Be like the way, you want your child to be. Provide them with the right kind of environment, for growth, stability in emotions, and capability to think in a free manner. Every child has their own set of demands, which they want to be fulfilled. Some children express it in the gentle manner, while other show aggression. It is important mold them in a more appropriate and acceptable behavior.

There is certainly no need to jump in every now and then to be a dictator, laying down rules, being pushy and over observant. Children like to spend sometime alone, playing, where they do not want to be judged and told whether they are right or wrong. So, give them a little space, if they want to play alone or with other children, let them. Elbowing your way in is quiet embarrassing for your child, especially in presence of other children.

From the start show the importance of manners, by exercising it yourself, like, PLEASE, THANK YOU, WELCOME, GOOD MORNING, BLESS YOU etc. The child will observe you and follow course, once it is established at an early age, rest of the manner hierarchy is achieved on its own.

Refrain yourself from being over protective, let them do things on their own. This part is the difficult one, especially for mothers. I guess I did, the same, and was told to stop doing it, as it is not good for all the right reasons. I really is difficult to see your child having a hard time climbing and while coming down having a fall, where you can not stop yourself from providing all the help you can think up of. RESTRAIN. This is the greatest challenge I assume. Let them struggle, it will develop their ability to learn new tactics and improving their mistakes, and learning better ways to approach a problem.

In order to exercise some rules at home, it is better to have some discipline first, where the child knows what things are done in what manner. Whether they can play first or do they homework, or where they can watch cartoon endlessly or play outside, or do cycling. What I think works is, the TIME TABLE. It is not necessary to be very rigid, but the baseline is there for every one to follow. Even kids will automatically start thinking in that way. For example, they know in evenings they have to finish their school home work, they might like to watch a little TV for their Cartoon show, for which you can give them a little time, and they themselves will off TV and come to their work desks to finish off their work. IT REALLY WORKS, IT IS WORKING WITH ME.

Be warm and kind, hugging and loving your child and telling them that you love them do wonders for their emotions. Instead of being angry, take a deep breath and tell them assertively what is wrong behavior and which behavior is acceptable. Keep on practicing, it will work, Patience is the key in achieving everything, remember that.

Don’t ever scold or raise your voice on your child, in presence of others. This is the most humiliating thing that you can do, for embarrassing them. It is always better, to go down on your knees and explain that the behavior they are showing is not acceptable, if they need something, they should ask for it slowly and using the words like please. That’s what I do when my child is throwing a tantrum in supermarket. It do works.

Be there for your kids, spend  quality time with them, rather thinking that you can buy smiles by giving them toys etc. It doesn’t last in the long run. Kids do remember the sharing time, playing time as a family. Quality time means, that you switch off TV, put away your cell phone, and play with them, hear them out, listen to them carefully and respond them in the kindest manner possible.