DEAL WITH PATIENCE

Are you in a hurry to get something done? Are you in a rush to complete your assignment? Are you being impatient with someone, not capable enough in your group? Are you losing your patience because you are not getting the required results?

Patience is an important Life Skill. Patience is the ability to tolerate waiting, delay or frustrations without getting upset or agitated. It is the ability to control your emotions or impulses and proceed calmly when faced with difficulties. Patience leads to emotional freedom which is a lifelong practice. In order to shape your talents and abilities you must deal with patience with yourself and with others. Keep on making the efforts until you master.

“It is not necessary for all men to be great in action. The greatest and sublimest power is often simple patience.” – Horace Bushnell.

Patience helps us in seeing the problem in a positive light, which we were unable to see when we were frustrated. Reframing the situation and the matter at hand can be viewed in a positive light only when we deal with it patiently.

Relax when you are engulfed with situations that seem too bleak to be resolved. When you have control over your emotions you are in a better position to see the situation and to deal with it in an effective manner. You avoid making hasty decisions. As at that time you know how to approach a problem and how to overcome the obstacles.

“One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life” (Chinese Proverb). 

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CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

Conflict is a natural, vital part of life. When conflict is understood, it can become an opportunity to learn and create. The challenge for people in conflict is to apply the principles of creative cooperation in their human relationships. (Richard Bodine, Donna Crawford, and Fred Schrumpf. Creating the Peaceable School: A Comprehensive Program for Teaching conflict Resolution).

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Conflict management and its resolution is a skill to work effectively in academics, work or social setting, so as to succeed as an independent individual. Conflict Management skill develops early in life, where a child develops the ability to read the non-verbal cues like, facial expressions, body language, tone of voice etc. that are part of socializing.

 

 

In order to manage conflict begin by:

  • Accepting the conflict. It will play an important role in managing conflict. Remember, conflict occurs in everyday life and it provides the opportunity to grow, understand and enhance communication skills.
  • Whether you are a sounding board to your friend or you are dealing with your own conflicts, remember that your response or the way you deal with a conflicting situation might escalate the intensity or decrease the intensity of the problem at hand. Be calm as it provides an opportunity to be neutral and helps in thinking clearly the action plan to resolve the problem.
  • Get to know or analyze the reasons behind the conflict, why it made you angry, what you are afraid of losing, who are you angry with etc.
  • Be specific about the problem or the conflict and only devise ways to resolve it, without being judgmental.
  • Work together, without blaming each other or self for the problem.
  • Communicate effectively, which includes the behavior to listen, and speak about facts and feelings. Expressing your concerns without being aggressive, and exercising self-control in order to avoid emotional out-bursts.

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ARE YOU HAVING A LOW OPINION OF YOURSELF?

 “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. Eleanor Roosevelt.

 

Independent of your successes, failures or the opinion of others, the way you appreciate, value, accept yourselves is SELF-WORTH. Self-worth means that you have a favorable opinion of yourself and that you believe that you have a right to feel positive of yourself. And for doing so your actions, thoughts and beliefs are the milestones.

 

If you are experiencing or going through:

 

□       Low feeling.

□       Depression.

□       Mood swings.

□       Feeling bad about being judged by others.

□       Not able to control/handle situations.

□       Dissatisfied with self or life.

□       Feeling of helplessness.

□       Unable to maintain social life.

 

It means that you are having low self- worth and you need to take actions to improve it.

 

If you are having low self-worth, you certainly can change your current state.

 

  •   Only you are responsible for your success.
  •   It’s okay to make mistakes.
  •   Only you have control on your future.
  •  Positive thinking leads to positive actions.

 

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Give meaning to your life and live a happy life.

THINKING NEGATIVELY

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We do face the problem of negative thinking. It might be due to any incident or event that has occurred and we find ourselves in the midst of negative thinking pattern. Sometimes it is so over-powering that it controls every aspect of our lives.

Personal beliefs, our principles and morals are the basis of our thoughts. Our low mood triggers negative thoughts and forms a chain reaction if we are unable to identify and stop it.

Become aware of your thought processes, simply acknowledging that they exist, helps in managing the negative thoughts. Our thoughts are automatic and fast, they keep on popping up and bombarding us, more so when they are negative.
 Thoughts that are more stressful or depressing should be dealt with first. Think about it, as they are the root cause of your negativity. When our beliefs are not matched with the outside world the distress creeps in. Identify the cause behind stress, despair and depression.
 Negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. If you are depressed you will be thinking of negative outcomes, like failure in exams, unable to submit assignments on time, inability to concentrate, hopelessness etc. In order to break free of this destructive negative thinking pattern, become aware how they work and on what bases.
 Beliefs and values should be your main focus, as to see from where negative thinking is generating. Try to get control of things and situations before they become over whelming.
 Be optimistic, as it plays a key role in addressing negative thinking. The optimistic person accepts the facts and searches for solutions, while a pessimist attributes the factors that are not even in the situation, thus making the problem bigger than it was in reality.
 Focus on positive emotions and feelings, and replace the old thoughts by it. Think creatively and positively of the solutions, set achievable goals, and move away from negative triggers in the environment. Manage your negative emotions and feelings, this takes time, and your stress or depression will not simply vanish after it. But you will learn how to be a positive thinker.

If you continue to be negative, you will be attracting more negativity in life.
Let go of it and surround yourself with positive thoughts, you will be much happier.

CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT THE EASY WAY

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Every day I hear about the DO’s and DON’Ts of CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT. Teachers complain that they are not able to handle their class effectively and due to which the lesson that they have to convey suffers a lot. Classroom discipline certainly do plays an important role and is the teachers number one priority. 

The educators are of view that discipline is the key for effective teaching. And it is the number one reason for TEACHER BURNOUT, adding to dissatisfaction, depression and anxiety. 

Classroom management stands for a variety of techniques, methods, or skills employed by the teacher in having an organised class, disciplined students, who are active listeners, are attentive, and focus on academics, to be productive and enthusiastic in class. 

If in a classroom the classroom management techniques are implied or carried out effectively, the behavior of the students improves and it in turn enhances their study skills, keeping them more engaged in lesson. 

It is a general believe that effective teachers display effective and strong management skills in class, while teachers have display short comings in classroom management tend to have an indiscipline class.

Teachers role in a class is of a facilitator, one who acts as a moderator between the lesson and students. The body language of the teacher, the material the teacher uses to enhance the lesson, and the environment the teacher creates tend to bring a whole new positive energy in the class. 

On the other hand if the material or activities used for supporting lesson are not effective, the lesson is poorly designed, not engaging or interesting, or the expectations are not clear, leads to major let down for the whole lesson. The students loose the interest, there might be an increase in behavioral problems, aggression or frustration might generate.

Classroom management strategies are just not something that can be written on the paper and to be strictly followed, though I will be focusing on a few in the end. Classroom management is nothing sophisticated, the presence of mind, patience, creativity, a positive attitude and a passion for the profession keeps the water flowing. 

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To start with:

  • Develop supportive and caring environment with and among the students.
  • Organize the class, and lay down the objective of the lesson.
  • Use appropriate interventions to handle inappropriate behavior problem of students, and deal with situation positively and patiently.
  • Focus on developmental needs of the students, improve on social skills among the students to make the classroom environment positive. 
  • Develop and focus on INDIVIDUAL BEHAVIOR PLAN with help of counsellor.
  • Work with incentive charts or grading charts in class, or any method that let the students know what is desired from them.

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  • Focus on positively handling the situation, instead of resorting to child abuse.
  • Reinforce for positive behavior and restrain from negatively reinforcing the negative or inappropriate behavior.
  • Make use of token system for approved behavior.
  • It always serves to have a regular class routines, one which the students feel comfortable in, and know what is expected of them, as it makes it easier for them to settle down and the teacher can begin with the lesson.
  • Assign responsibilities to students for certain tasks, especially for the students who you think tend to disrupt the class. It will keep them engage in something positive. 

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SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL LEARNING

Social and Emotional Learning

BY PARISA NOMAN KHAN

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What is Social & Emotional Learning?

What it means?

Self awareness: Recognizing one’s emotions and values as well as one’s strengths and limitations.

Responsible decision making: Making ethical, constructive choices about personal and social behavior.

Relationship skills: Forming positive relationships, working in teams, dealing effectively with conflict.

Social awareness: Showing understanding and empathy for others.

Self Management: Managing emotions and behaviors to achieve one’s goals.

FRAME WORK OF SEL FOR IMPROVED BEHAVIOR AND ACADEMICS

  • SKILL DEVELOPMENT
  • Communication.
  • Self-regulation.
  • Risk assessment.
  • Consequential thinking (if-then).
  • Assertiveness.
  • Empathy.
  • Perspective taking.
  • Emotion knowledge.
  • Attention regulation.
  • Goal setting.
  • Conflict resolution.
  • Problem solving.
  • Emotion management.
  • Friendship.

 

WHY DOES SEL MATTERS?

  • Emotions affect how and what we learn.
  • Schools are social places – relationships provide foundation for learning.
  • Reduces barriers to learning such as stress.
  • Increases school connectedness and essential skills.
  • Aligns with the academic agenda of schools.
  • Critical to success in school and life.

21st CENTURY SKILLS:

  • Global literacy- basic, visual, scientific, information, economic.
  • Problem solving.
  • Communication.
  • Creativity.
  • Innovation & change.
  • Teach students basic literacy skills and SEL skills along with technology.
  • Train students how to use technology effectively to enhance their performance.
  • Design lessons to create environments that are flexible.

 

SOCIAL INTERACTION

Our social interactions play a role in reshaping our brain, through “neuroplasticity”, which means that repeated experiences sculpt the shape, size, and number of neurons and their synaptic connection.

By repeatedly driving our brain into a given register, our key relationships can gradually mold certain neural circuitry.  In effect, being chronically hurt and angered, or being emotionally nourished by someone we spend time with daily over the course of years can refashion the brain.”

Daniel Goleman

  • Positive Learning Environments
  • Challenging and engaging.
  • Safe, supportive learning community with respectful relationships and trust.
  • Evidence-based.
  • Engaging students actively and experientially in the learning process.
  • Opportunities for participation, collaboration, and service.
  • Involvement of families.

 

 

What Does Research Say?

Improvement in:

  • Attitudes (motivation, commitment).
  • Behaviors (participation, study habits).
  • Performance (grades, subject matter).

 

What Does Research Say?
Attitudes

  • Stronger sense of community.
  • Higher academic motivation and educational aspirations.
  • Better understanding of consequences of behavior.
  • Better ability to cope with school stressors.
  • Increased positive attitudes toward school and learning.

 

What Does Research Say?
Behaviors

  • Participate in class more.
  • Demonstrate more pro-social behavior.
  • Have fewer absences and improved attendance.
  • Show reductions in aggression and disruptions
  • Are on track to graduate and are less likely to drop out.
  • Are more likely to work out their own way of    learning.

What Does Research Say?
School Performance

  • Improved studies skills.
  • Higher achievement test scores and grades.
  • Improved learning-to-learn skills.
  • Better problem solving and planning ability.
  • Use of higher level reasoning strategies.
  • Improvements in reading comprehension.