LIFE’S JOURNEY

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I was at a function yesterday on STUDENT EXCELLENCE, seeing so many proud students and their parents receiving prizes. The guest speaker gave a speech in the end and I was totally influenced by it, she really made me ponder on LIFE’S JOURNEY.

As we are growing up we learn that in order to achieve something in life we need to plan it, set goals or routes that will bring our objective closer. We find the meaning of life somewhere during that journey. Each time we achieve a goal we have our eyes set for a new objective and this keeps on going.

BUT I want to ask you that:

  • WHAT YOU WANT TO ACHIEVE IN THE NEXT FIVE YEARS?
  • WILL THAT GOAL BE SAME AFTER 10 YEARS?

Life is a journey, full of laughter, hardships, love, care, difficulties, celebrations, heartaches and challenges. Twists and turns, curves and bends tests your strength and determination.The keep on going and thus we stay connected to it. When something goes wrong and we find ourselves unable to reach our goal, after lot of thinking we find out that we made a mistake which led us away from the goal.

What we do when we come to know about our mistakes?

  • Do you learn from our mistakes?
  • Do you just acknowledge and move on?
  • Do you devise a plan so as not to commit the same mistake again?

What we do with our mistakes lays the next course of our life, give it a new meaning. It is important to identify them at first, than search for the reasons behind it, make a plan for the future goal ones that are realistic and are achievable.

What I wanted to be 20 years back, I don’t want that now, what I want after 5 years I know I will most certainly will not be needing it after 10 years. The goals I made, the journeys I have undertaken made me what I am today. I do want other things in life at this stage, and I am certainly going to take a new journey for that. I have learned from my mistakes, like being too hasty sometimes, trusting people for whom I had a wrong gut feeling, knowingly led myself into webs of emotional turmoil, not working hard at a point where I should have had, ditching my forever dream just to achieve somethings else. Yes, I have indeed learned, and will not be making those mistakes again.

Bring in a meaningful change in life, which will lead you to choose from different options available, based on your potential and your aspirations, go for your dreams or take a journey that gives you a sense of happiness and contentment in life. Make a meaningful change in your personal and professional life.

What we do now have a deeper impact on the upcoming years, it leave marks.

All of us have a journey to take which is unique on its own.

Go on to your journey of self fulfillment, self exploration, happiness, contentment, your dreams, your truth, guided by your motivations and aspiration.

Life comes by once, so make the most of it.

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TRANSITION TIME IN STUDENTS LIFE

Moving up in higher grades each year demands a time for you to settle down. Transitions are smooth and easy for some students while for others they are stressful and way to demanding.

As we all know transition keeps on going, where we pass through numerous biological, social, environmental and psychological changes. Each stage has its own demand, where we seek opportunities to master and demonstrate new skills, where we want to make independent decisions, form social relationships with our peers and the people around. Transition brings with it more peer pressure, developmental differences, added responsibilities and much more.

We have to deal with new responsibilities, think of school achievement and success. The factors that help are motivation, self-concept, the readiness to take up new challenges, dealing with problems effectively, being innovative in our thought, and rigorous in our approach. And it would certainly not hurt us to get help from an adult.

Children earn status in school depending on their performance. They also experience failure and frustration, especially if they are less skilled than their peers. (The Development of Children Ages 6 to 14. Jacquelynne S. Eccles).

 

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Never let yourself down, be discouraged, or frustrated, rather keep on trying, and do your best, and that too in order to achieve and excel.

LITTLE CHANGES IN LIFE

Recently I read a book named “The Little Guide to Big Changes” by Sarah M. Collins, and by the time I was done with the first chapter Enliven your life through conscious change I began to ask myself questions.

  • Am I satisfied with my life?
  • Do I feel that I am trapped in any way in the present circumstances?
  • Am I frustrated, depressed or stressed out do to the happenings?
  • Is the thought of future makes me anxious, to the level of effecting my health?

Indeed change means that you are going to experience something which is new, something that might be beyond your control or power, probably a situation with which we are not familiar with. This thought makes us reluctant and we become scared of taking a plunge into the unseen. This thought of unfamiliarity stops us from changing our situation, ourselves, and our conditions.

It is the unknown that causes discomfort, because we always find solace in the knowing. Things or situations and I would add here people as well, with which we are familiar with or that are predictable are more easy for some people to tackle. While there are others who want to break free of this masochistic way of thinking. Those who are stuck and are reluctant in changing their life or not able to take a decision, might be finding  peace in all the things that are unpleasant. They feel safe in the miserable situations and continue on to be there rather than moving ahead with confidence and taking up the unknown.

Stop and think that if you break free of it, make a decision to change something in your life, and going to venture in the unseen, provided that you give time to settle the new situation or new experience you might actually feel better and you will feel accomplished. The real growth comes with change, when you are motivated to change your present for a brighter future or a better situation, or for a better opportunity. Even small steps will have a big impact on your life. Small decisions lay down the future pathways.

Start from inside what you want from yourself, from your surroundings, what you want to experience in life, what your aspirations are, are you willing to do something worthwhile in your life????

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Bring things in perspective and start the transformation.

TIME FOR YOURSELF

There are times when we are too busy, even to look around us or give to ourselves. Well we do have a motive behind it. It might be due to the reason of our work, responsibilities or situations or life happenings that we forget to think about ourselves. We leave and we move away from our own being, never finding time to look into the inner self, which is long forgotten.

Stop and introspect, and think what you have been missing. Learn to value yourself, see what motivates you, what you love doing, what makes you happy, keeps you contended and relaxed.

Time keeps on going and is never stopping. But among all the life happenings, stop and think about yourself, it will help you many things that you are probably neglecting, like, your health. When we introspect and look for reasons, we do find answers and in them find solutions for the problems we are facing. We learn new ways of problem solving, and in the process somewhere find our comfort zones, our real self which is long forgotten.

So, take time out for yourself, take yourself on a date and find yourself, it will make things easier for you.

ARE YOU HAVING A LOW OPINION OF YOURSELF?

 “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. Eleanor Roosevelt.

 

Independent of your successes, failures or the opinion of others, the way you appreciate, value, accept yourselves is SELF-WORTH. Self-worth means that you have a favorable opinion of yourself and that you believe that you have a right to feel positive of yourself. And for doing so your actions, thoughts and beliefs are the milestones.

 

If you are experiencing or going through:

 

□       Low feeling.

□       Depression.

□       Mood swings.

□       Feeling bad about being judged by others.

□       Not able to control/handle situations.

□       Dissatisfied with self or life.

□       Feeling of helplessness.

□       Unable to maintain social life.

 

It means that you are having low self- worth and you need to take actions to improve it.

 

If you are having low self-worth, you certainly can change your current state.

 

  •   Only you are responsible for your success.
  •   It’s okay to make mistakes.
  •   Only you have control on your future.
  •  Positive thinking leads to positive actions.

 

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Give meaning to your life and live a happy life.

THINKING NEGATIVELY

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We do face the problem of negative thinking. It might be due to any incident or event that has occurred and we find ourselves in the midst of negative thinking pattern. Sometimes it is so over-powering that it controls every aspect of our lives.

Personal beliefs, our principles and morals are the basis of our thoughts. Our low mood triggers negative thoughts and forms a chain reaction if we are unable to identify and stop it.

Become aware of your thought processes, simply acknowledging that they exist, helps in managing the negative thoughts. Our thoughts are automatic and fast, they keep on popping up and bombarding us, more so when they are negative.
 Thoughts that are more stressful or depressing should be dealt with first. Think about it, as they are the root cause of your negativity. When our beliefs are not matched with the outside world the distress creeps in. Identify the cause behind stress, despair and depression.
 Negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. If you are depressed you will be thinking of negative outcomes, like failure in exams, unable to submit assignments on time, inability to concentrate, hopelessness etc. In order to break free of this destructive negative thinking pattern, become aware how they work and on what bases.
 Beliefs and values should be your main focus, as to see from where negative thinking is generating. Try to get control of things and situations before they become over whelming.
 Be optimistic, as it plays a key role in addressing negative thinking. The optimistic person accepts the facts and searches for solutions, while a pessimist attributes the factors that are not even in the situation, thus making the problem bigger than it was in reality.
 Focus on positive emotions and feelings, and replace the old thoughts by it. Think creatively and positively of the solutions, set achievable goals, and move away from negative triggers in the environment. Manage your negative emotions and feelings, this takes time, and your stress or depression will not simply vanish after it. But you will learn how to be a positive thinker.

If you continue to be negative, you will be attracting more negativity in life.
Let go of it and surround yourself with positive thoughts, you will be much happier.

DISCIPLINE IN LIFE = BETTER LIFE

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The reason that I am writing this article is, I was reflecting on my life, and the way I was brought up and the way I want my children to be. DISCIPLINE is the only word that came to my mind. We as kids were told about discipline and what is expected from us, and I really appreciate the efforts my parents made, it shaped my PERSONALITY  and MY WHOLE LIFE.

Foundations that are laid early in life, last a long time and have a great impact on one’s life. Discipline tells how to live our life, and how we can make it fruitful, and lead into the direction of self enhancement, high morals and freedom. Many people do think it means restrictions, punishments, and lack of expression, which is entirely wrong. In fact, DISCIPLINE gives a more mature and firm ground on which you can build your entire life on principles of freedom, appropriate expression, judgment, containment, and high standards.

Discipline is believing in oneself, ones qualities, and doing things that are right, and is not just pleasing others. You learn how to express your emotions appropriately and maturely, without being drowned by emotional flood. It builds your mental capacity how to react in situations, how to think with a clear head, and what could be the next possible step.

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Discipline enriches your life and you learn how to manage your life effectively. It guides you and teaches you to manage your relationships, your finances, give you an insight to your future course of life. It makes you think rationally in the light of your past experiences, your present situation and tells you about your future path.

You learn to live a life according to your own standards, your own set of rules, and it really doesn’t matter what others think of you. It keeps on reminding you what you want out of your life, and you plan your path accordingly.

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OPENNESS IN RELATIONSHIP

People who need inspiration in life, expect to know the truth, and people who deserve motivation in life needs the same. Nothing can be as bonding in a relationship as truth. Lie breaks relationship, leading to heart ache and pain.

It is important to know and to find out how one’s spouse think, what his/her motivations are, life goals and inspirations are? Knowing the nature of your spouse you can automatically switch into that mode when difficult or distressing time comes. BUT it is shocking, emotionally disturbing to find out that the other person is secretive, and might be a compulsive liar.

Time and again we all do need a break, a distance, a space where we can be in touch to our inner self, keeping things to ourselves sometimes to work them out, or perhaps we do not want to hurt our partners feelings and emotions. But that doesn’t mean that one turn into a person where no one can reach him/her. Hiding things, being secretive or lying every now and then.

The basis on a true, loving and long lasting relationship is in openness, truth, sharing one’s thoughts and ideas. Sometimes what is right and true for us is not the same for another person. You need to find out the underlying cause of things, without being judgmental, without passing remarks. And the key to every relations is communication (that’s what I believe in).

It would indeed be difficult to trust a person who misused it earlier. But never break a relationship on it, rather try to develop a healthy bonding with the partner. Give the person enough love, so that he/she can open up to you, share his/her fears, tell the things that went wrong.

Openness helps build a sound relationship, where you set plans for future, share ideas, your private thoughts, knowing that you will not be judged or criticized, rather will be heard. Fulfilling each others emotional need which is boosted by honesty, love, openness which in turn are the core for a good relationship.

Relationships are very important part of our lives, do take care before you hurt someone by your lying habit.