SPREADING HAPPINESS

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I believe in this saying.

I think when you share people’s problem, listen to them with open heart, give a shoulder to cry on and supporting them in whatever you can, you make them happy and ultimately it bring HAPPINESS to you.

HAPPINESS doesn’t mean that you have account full of money, a luxurious home to live in, perfect kids, perfect spouse and a dream job.

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NO!!!!

HAPPINESS is spreading HAPPINESS.

Content with what you have, no matter how little it is. And still you care for others you help them out in their lives and still keep on moving with yours. THAT IS REAL HAPPINESS.

Carrying out small ACTS OF KINDNESS and SMILING at people to show them love and care makes your day. IT WORKS FOR ME.

I am alhumdulilah what I always wanted to be, and each day I try to achieve whatever is there in my capacity no matter how big or small it is, to spread happiness, to make people feel loved, and cared for.

It brings back immense HAPPINESS when people say that thank you you made my day, thank you for listening it means a lot, thank you for guiding we will try it out, thank you for just being there. I feel so blessed and I thank ALMIGHTY ALLAH for choosing me to do something for humanity, though its not much.

It gives me solitude, brings peace to me.

We just need a good smile in morning to make us feel better, a pat on the back that we are not alone, a compassionate hand to know that we are not walking alone, a good greet to realize that we can make it.

Every small gesture counts, a small act means a lot, it will become a habit, a behavior and will impact the society and community where people give a helping hand to each other in order to spread HAPPINESS.

START BY:

  •  Saying a Happy HI!
  • Greet people GOOD MORNING even when you don’t know them.
  • Be a listening ear.
  • Thank people even for smallest gestures.
  • Give gifts.
  • Be a helping hand.
  • Support your community.
  • Be POSITIVE.
  • Inspire others by your smile.
  • Help out people who are in need.
  • Reach out to those who work for you.
  • Be understanding of others view, and don’t be judgmental.
  • Be some ones SUNSHINE.
  • Be a SILVER LINING in some ones cloud.
  • Be a LIGHT for some one in need.

So, don’t wait for HAPPINESS to come to you.

START SPREADING HAPPINESS AROUND YOU WHEREVER YOU ALL ARE, IT WILL ULTIMATELY COME BACK TO YOU AND YOU WILL FEEL IMMENSE PEACE.

LITTLE CHANGES IN LIFE

Recently I read a book named “The Little Guide to Big Changes” by Sarah M. Collins, and by the time I was done with the first chapter Enliven your life through conscious change I began to ask myself questions.

  • Am I satisfied with my life?
  • Do I feel that I am trapped in any way in the present circumstances?
  • Am I frustrated, depressed or stressed out do to the happenings?
  • Is the thought of future makes me anxious, to the level of effecting my health?

Indeed change means that you are going to experience something which is new, something that might be beyond your control or power, probably a situation with which we are not familiar with. This thought makes us reluctant and we become scared of taking a plunge into the unseen. This thought of unfamiliarity stops us from changing our situation, ourselves, and our conditions.

It is the unknown that causes discomfort, because we always find solace in the knowing. Things or situations and I would add here people as well, with which we are familiar with or that are predictable are more easy for some people to tackle. While there are others who want to break free of this masochistic way of thinking. Those who are stuck and are reluctant in changing their life or not able to take a decision, might be finding  peace in all the things that are unpleasant. They feel safe in the miserable situations and continue on to be there rather than moving ahead with confidence and taking up the unknown.

Stop and think that if you break free of it, make a decision to change something in your life, and going to venture in the unseen, provided that you give time to settle the new situation or new experience you might actually feel better and you will feel accomplished. The real growth comes with change, when you are motivated to change your present for a brighter future or a better situation, or for a better opportunity. Even small steps will have a big impact on your life. Small decisions lay down the future pathways.

Start from inside what you want from yourself, from your surroundings, what you want to experience in life, what your aspirations are, are you willing to do something worthwhile in your life????

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Bring things in perspective and start the transformation.

THINKING NEGATIVELY

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We do face the problem of negative thinking. It might be due to any incident or event that has occurred and we find ourselves in the midst of negative thinking pattern. Sometimes it is so over-powering that it controls every aspect of our lives.

Personal beliefs, our principles and morals are the basis of our thoughts. Our low mood triggers negative thoughts and forms a chain reaction if we are unable to identify and stop it.

Become aware of your thought processes, simply acknowledging that they exist, helps in managing the negative thoughts. Our thoughts are automatic and fast, they keep on popping up and bombarding us, more so when they are negative.
 Thoughts that are more stressful or depressing should be dealt with first. Think about it, as they are the root cause of your negativity. When our beliefs are not matched with the outside world the distress creeps in. Identify the cause behind stress, despair and depression.
 Negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. If you are depressed you will be thinking of negative outcomes, like failure in exams, unable to submit assignments on time, inability to concentrate, hopelessness etc. In order to break free of this destructive negative thinking pattern, become aware how they work and on what bases.
 Beliefs and values should be your main focus, as to see from where negative thinking is generating. Try to get control of things and situations before they become over whelming.
 Be optimistic, as it plays a key role in addressing negative thinking. The optimistic person accepts the facts and searches for solutions, while a pessimist attributes the factors that are not even in the situation, thus making the problem bigger than it was in reality.
 Focus on positive emotions and feelings, and replace the old thoughts by it. Think creatively and positively of the solutions, set achievable goals, and move away from negative triggers in the environment. Manage your negative emotions and feelings, this takes time, and your stress or depression will not simply vanish after it. But you will learn how to be a positive thinker.

If you continue to be negative, you will be attracting more negativity in life.
Let go of it and surround yourself with positive thoughts, you will be much happier.

OPENNESS IN RELATIONSHIP

People who need inspiration in life, expect to know the truth, and people who deserve motivation in life needs the same. Nothing can be as bonding in a relationship as truth. Lie breaks relationship, leading to heart ache and pain.

It is important to know and to find out how one’s spouse think, what his/her motivations are, life goals and inspirations are? Knowing the nature of your spouse you can automatically switch into that mode when difficult or distressing time comes. BUT it is shocking, emotionally disturbing to find out that the other person is secretive, and might be a compulsive liar.

Time and again we all do need a break, a distance, a space where we can be in touch to our inner self, keeping things to ourselves sometimes to work them out, or perhaps we do not want to hurt our partners feelings and emotions. But that doesn’t mean that one turn into a person where no one can reach him/her. Hiding things, being secretive or lying every now and then.

The basis on a true, loving and long lasting relationship is in openness, truth, sharing one’s thoughts and ideas. Sometimes what is right and true for us is not the same for another person. You need to find out the underlying cause of things, without being judgmental, without passing remarks. And the key to every relations is communication (that’s what I believe in).

It would indeed be difficult to trust a person who misused it earlier. But never break a relationship on it, rather try to develop a healthy bonding with the partner. Give the person enough love, so that he/she can open up to you, share his/her fears, tell the things that went wrong.

Openness helps build a sound relationship, where you set plans for future, share ideas, your private thoughts, knowing that you will not be judged or criticized, rather will be heard. Fulfilling each others emotional need which is boosted by honesty, love, openness which in turn are the core for a good relationship.

Relationships are very important part of our lives, do take care before you hurt someone by your lying habit.

TESTING TIMES

Life Is Full of Testing Times, Just Have Courage to Withstand.

A time comes in life when you are snowed with stress, hopelessness, depression, darkness, and it would not be wrong to say that we are shaken up to our core of being. these times are not predicted to some extent, and therefore we are not prepared for it mostly. This doesn’t mean that we cannot change our situation and keep on mellowing in it for a longer time, as it will be more harder for us to just give in and sit back to see how things pass us.

We should keep on reminding ourselves that setbacks, failures, disappointments, or tragedies are part of life, which make us stronger and wiser. The only thing that works better is HOPE.

“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.”– Martin Luther King

In those times it, it would be a help if we have our coping mechanisms working, to deal with stress and shake up the settling of depression blanket from ourselves.

  • Acceptance of the situation makes the pain last for a shorter time.  Accept the things in the true manner. It will help you in coping with stress and bringing you out from the dark hole. It will prepare you to withstand the storm.
  • Gratitude will lead you a long way, so never let go it. Thanking for things even in the worst situations bring light in life, make the pain lighter and in turn relaxes you.
  • Choose your future wisely and start prioritizing your life, knowing what is more important and how to achieve it gives you a motive and a direction in life.
  • And lastly, believing. Believing that God is there to help you in the worst of situations, pray, and hope.

DEFINE YOUR PATH

 

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These lines crossed my mind some time back, and I thought of sharing it here. We are often faced with the dilemma of choosing a path that is less stressful, among the others. Or choosing a completely different path, in order to change our lives or our situations.

If we sincerely want to take a big step to a greater goal, lots of effort is required. Thinking something, is not enough, until you act on it, or until you put your thoughts into actions.

I am taught from an early age by my beloved mother:

  • No pain no gain.
  • No game without risks.

Doing something big always involve risks, in taking some steps we hesitate, and become confused. And we a re forced to think again and again the same point where we are stuck, thing causes confusion in our mind, and we loose our confidence. This in turn closes our mind for rational thinking, or stops us from analyzing the situation in a positive manner.

After we cross this stage of turning our sails in a favorable direction we succumb to lack of motivation, and become tired of pushing harder in the direction of our goals.

Wait and just think. if you keep on doing that and keep on saying that you are tired of putting efforts and nothing fruitful is coming out. You are making your self believe that you  can not do more. Don’t send these negative messages to your mind. Because it will act the way your believe system is developing.

Choosing something for ourselves is not that much of a problem for most of the people, staying motivated and persistent is the main problem, that most of us face. If you start having doubts about your selection, fear of future or its results, will sweep in. This believe will make you feel trapped, and you will not be able to focus on the matter at hand.

Remember:

  • Keep yourself motivated by realizing and making yourself believe that it will work out eventually, even if it not working the way you want it to right now.
  • Take one step at a time, and consider it as a great milestone.
  • Don’t be scared of the results, if you start concentrating how it will turn out, you will never be able to give it your best.
  • Concentrate on your goals and  your plan of action.
  • Never let anyone put you down.
  • Do not take approval from people who do not understand your vision.

If you have your eyes on your goals, and are determined for achieving something, which really matters to you, you will never fail.