CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

Conflict is a natural, vital part of life. When conflict is understood, it can become an opportunity to learn and create. The challenge for people in conflict is to apply the principles of creative cooperation in their human relationships. (Richard Bodine, Donna Crawford, and Fred Schrumpf. Creating the Peaceable School: A Comprehensive Program for Teaching conflict Resolution).

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Conflict management and its resolution is a skill to work effectively in academics, work or social setting, so as to succeed as an independent individual. Conflict Management skill develops early in life, where a child develops the ability to read the non-verbal cues like, facial expressions, body language, tone of voice etc. that are part of socializing.

 

 

In order to manage conflict begin by:

  • Accepting the conflict. It will play an important role in managing conflict. Remember, conflict occurs in everyday life and it provides the opportunity to grow, understand and enhance communication skills.
  • Whether you are a sounding board to your friend or you are dealing with your own conflicts, remember that your response or the way you deal with a conflicting situation might escalate the intensity or decrease the intensity of the problem at hand. Be calm as it provides an opportunity to be neutral and helps in thinking clearly the action plan to resolve the problem.
  • Get to know or analyze the reasons behind the conflict, why it made you angry, what you are afraid of losing, who are you angry with etc.
  • Be specific about the problem or the conflict and only devise ways to resolve it, without being judgmental.
  • Work together, without blaming each other or self for the problem.
  • Communicate effectively, which includes the behavior to listen, and speak about facts and feelings. Expressing your concerns without being aggressive, and exercising self-control in order to avoid emotional out-bursts.

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LIFE AS I SEE IT

“Focus on what need to be done, and leave behind what went wrong, or what you could have done”.

As we pass our days, thought of things that went wrong, and brought us to a point in life, where we do not admire our standing, do cross our minds. Life is not a laid out plan, we make plans on basis of our inspirations, aspirations, our needs, our responsibilities, and our need to have peace within that comes from knowing of who we are and what we want.

Some people like myself, do want goals and plans in life, thinking out rationally and practically what needs to be done, which have better outcomes, and to somehow have a sound future. Meanwhile learning from mistakes that occurred, and stopping our so active mind to ponder on things that went wrong, decisions that lead us to a tight spot.

The key is to be consistent in your thoughts and actions, and awareness of your present and making decisions wisely and sticking to them. Being hesitant is going to lead you nowhere. Being afraid of things, people and situations would too be of no use, and you will be standing at the same point from where you started. Learn to take some risks where required, it give you more confidence and your mind will clear of doubts which you have about your self.

Ignore people who say bad things regarding you, avoid situations which you know would be difficult for you to handle. Take responsibility of your actions. No matter if times are hard, and you are farther away from your goals, keep your focus, keep positive, and keep on moving, stopping will attract negative thoughts and keep you away from your destiny.

“LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE”