YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

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Are you in pursuit to find yourself, searching for answers that you never thought of earlier? But have you thought of the most basic questions:

  • “Are you the real you?”
  • Have you ever thought that, “Whether you are doing what you are meant to do?”
  • “Have you reached the height of actualizing your potentials?”
  • “Are you connected to who you really are?”

I didn’t knew about it too, so many years ago I went to a self help group, where I was asked questions like these, whether I was connected to my core or not. Speechless as I was and shake my head in favor of NO. There I learned what connecting to your real self means. Its definitely not, which place I belong to, what role I am in, what profession I pursue. I was asked to write on a plain paper what I like in life, what I really see myself doing, what I love doing, what things make me cry, make me laugh, what things I enjoy the most, what my hobbies are. Making me realize which path to choose for myself in practical life. Even now I think of it, it warms me up, just by knowing who I really am, what I really should be doing. And I am again on the path to find the real Authentic Me.

The Trainer in that course made me realize and helped me in connecting to my core, finding who I really am. It is not the job that you do, not the social status that you have, but what your abilities, skills, aspirations, talents, and wisdom are. This defines your real self. Every one is unique, so are the abilities, the power of one’s wisdom, certain skills that are novel. All waiting to be explored to be acknowledged, expressed and to be worked on.

You can never be happy of satisfied from inside until you connect to your real self, attain your Authentic self, it is you who is the master of the game in your life, and no one else. Doing something forcefully which is not there in you will bring in negatives, and you will be drained of all the light which is in you. Discover who you really are, putting aside all the roles that are demanded of you, your pressures form your work, your other responsibilities.

Analyze yourself, start knowing your nature, what makes you tick, what your limitations are, what things you acquired in your behavior and attitude, how you interact with people, what your goals are in life, which things you can change in yourself and in your surrounding, what are the strengths and weaknesses in you, find out what guides you , motivates you, which relations are your strength, and which relations drag you. Each of us have a unique self,  unique potentials, and unique way of thinking,    this is Maslow’s Self Actualization, in Psychology of self.

“Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.”

Authentic Self means connecting the inner real you, with the outer image which is attributed to you. Authentic Self means that all is in congruence. And you have a deeper knowledge of yourself, by knowing your weaknesses you strengthen your positive points, by knowing your failings you work on your gains, you do things that are according to your beliefs and your value system. Expressing all the way your Authentic Self. You will a much fuller sense of your self, one which is more contending, relaxing, cherishing, and purposeful one. 

Being Authentic will make you confident, you will feel more positive, have a better insight in yourself and LIFE, greater self esteem, more emotionally intelligent, vital, and more creative. 

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ~ George Bernard Shaw.

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FINDING YOURSELF

Life is just not about indulging in and losing yourself in daily activities, work or responsibilities. If that happens you will be so tuck up in it that, a time comes you really do wonder, what you were you thinking? what led you to do this to yourself? and you are left miserable.

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Try to figure out who you really are, what is your purpose your goal in life, what things you love doing, what motivates you, mobilizes you, what are the things that make you bounce.

You will find yourself once you go through the closet of thinking of who you really are. you will see how that changes your life forever. 

The same rut of life will bore you out one day, and you will be a mechanical piece going through different doors. In order to accomplish your dreams it is a necessary thing to get to know yourself , your aspirations and following your dream. You will come to now latter on what you have being missing all the while.

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When you take on the journey to find yourself you will be analyzing yourself too, what you are, what roles you are playing in life, what things matters to you most, what makes you tick,  what are your eating habits, how you respond to fears, and accomplishments, what are your limits and which defense mechanisms you use. It will develop an insight in yourself, thus making you free from things that don’t matter much, that don’t lead you to your destiny. Leaving you more connected with your real self, you will find the center of everything within you. 

Take some time out for yourself, find a place that keeps you calm, where you can relax without interruptions or demands, and dive deep in yourself. Self discovery is  the perfect thing that you can do for yourself, it will enrich your life, making you plunge into positivity.   

“I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can’t find anybody who can tell me what they want.” – Mark Twain.

“Resolve to be thyself; and know that he who finds himself, loses his misery.” – Matthew Arnold.

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle.

  THE LESSONS OF LIFE

As we age, we all as human beings, learn things through our own experiences, and shared experiences. As we know that no one is perfect, and we make mistakes, only to learn from them, and try not to commit the same mistake again. No one can say that, they didn’t make mistake in their life, it is just part of growing up, getting more mature and experienced.

As we grow up we become aware that, our actions have consequences for which we are accountable to ourselves. We become a little wiser, and start analyzing life and its happening more alertly, become more conscious of our decision making process. We try to chose things that are in accordance to our nature, and we tend to take risks too, knowing how much we can push ourselves, or how strong we are to face adversity.

Each mistake that we make, give us a new lesson, a new way of thinking and approaching ideas, and decisions in our life. We keep on struggling to find a path to our destiny, by trial and error process, approaching ideas and ways each time in a different manner, one that suits our need and fulfills our desire. Learning motivates us to be more resilient, inculcates a deeper understanding of the life we are living.

All of you must be knowing this saying:

“TIME TEACHES ALL”.

Stop for a moment and relax, breath in and out with ease, and take your time in doing so. Now think what you learned in life, all the time that you spent, going to school, college, having relationships  friends, your work.

  • What you really learned?
  • Have you been able to rectify your mistakes?
  • Have you really learned anything that set the future course of your life?
  • What you changed by your experiences?
  • Or, all the learning that you did had gone waste?

Start your learning, and exploring yourself:

  • Everyone is leading his/her own life, so why not you stop worrying about others and start living yourself , for a start.
  • Know that whatever you choose for yourself, gives a much more higher satisfaction, as compared to, what others chose for you.
  • Start treating life as a friendly journey, where you indulge and play, and learn what has to offer you.
  • Never let go of the lesson an experience taught you, it is so much valuable for you, as you do not want to go through it again.
  • Learn to treat the life, the way you want to be treated. Whatever goes along comes along.
  • Life is too precious to waste, so learn to live inn the full manner and let others live to.
  • Give a chance to yourself to LIVE, by FORGIVING, it is the greatest thing that you can do for yourself. 
  • Keep on struggling on road to success, as nothing goes to waste. You will succeed sooner or later.
  • Decide whether you wan to be happy for the rest of your life or not, because it is your own attitude towards life, which will come to you.
  • Make peace with your past.
  • Stay true and loyal to yourself, don’t take help of cheating, to succeed, as you will fall if you do so.
  • Relationships are precious, give them, their time. You will know its worth, when it is not there.
  • Let go of things that are beyond repair, and cannot be changed, choose another path towards your goals.
  • Be thankful for whatever you have at present, don’t look back, nor forward.
  • Know one thing, that nothing can be achieved just by wishful thinking. You are supposed to take action in a positive manner, and set your horses on a favorable direction.
  • Be courageous, nothing will defeat you, not even your own fears.
  • Surround yourself with people who motivates you, keep you pushing and make you realize how special you are. Not the fake ones who are nothing and develop dependency in you.

 

“There are no such things as limits to growth, because there are no limits to the human capacity for intelligence, imagination, and wonder.” Ronald Reagan.