THE LESSONS OF LIFE

As we age, we all as human beings, learn things through our own experiences, and shared experiences. As we know that no one is perfect, and we make mistakes, only to learn from them, and try not to commit the same mistake again. No one can say that, they didn’t make mistake in their life, it is just part of growing up, getting more mature and experienced.

As we grow up we become aware that, our actions have consequences for which we are accountable to ourselves. We become a little wiser, and start analyzing life and its happening more alertly, become more conscious of our decision making process. We try to chose things that are in accordance to our nature, and we tend to take risks too, knowing how much we can push ourselves, or how strong we are to face adversity.

Each mistake that we make, give us a new lesson, a new way of thinking and approaching ideas, and decisions in our life. We keep on struggling to find a path to our destiny, by trial and error process, approaching ideas and ways each time in a different manner, one that suits our need and fulfills our desire. Learning motivates us to be more resilient, inculcates a deeper understanding of the life we are living.

All of you must be knowing this saying:

“TIME TEACHES ALL”.

Stop for a moment and relax, breath in and out with ease, and take your time in doing so. Now think what you learned in life, all the time that you spent, going to school, college, having relationships  friends, your work.

  • What you really learned?
  • Have you been able to rectify your mistakes?
  • Have you really learned anything that set the future course of your life?
  • What you changed by your experiences?
  • Or, all the learning that you did had gone waste?

Start your learning, and exploring yourself:

  • Everyone is leading his/her own life, so why not you stop worrying about others and start living yourself , for a start.
  • Know that whatever you choose for yourself, gives a much more higher satisfaction, as compared to, what others chose for you.
  • Start treating life as a friendly journey, where you indulge and play, and learn what has to offer you.
  • Never let go of the lesson an experience taught you, it is so much valuable for you, as you do not want to go through it again.
  • Learn to treat the life, the way you want to be treated. Whatever goes along comes along.
  • Life is too precious to waste, so learn to live inn the full manner and let others live to.
  • Give a chance to yourself to LIVE, by FORGIVING, it is the greatest thing that you can do for yourself. 
  • Keep on struggling on road to success, as nothing goes to waste. You will succeed sooner or later.
  • Decide whether you wan to be happy for the rest of your life or not, because it is your own attitude towards life, which will come to you.
  • Make peace with your past.
  • Stay true and loyal to yourself, don’t take help of cheating, to succeed, as you will fall if you do so.
  • Relationships are precious, give them, their time. You will know its worth, when it is not there.
  • Let go of things that are beyond repair, and cannot be changed, choose another path towards your goals.
  • Be thankful for whatever you have at present, don’t look back, nor forward.
  • Know one thing, that nothing can be achieved just by wishful thinking. You are supposed to take action in a positive manner, and set your horses on a favorable direction.
  • Be courageous, nothing will defeat you, not even your own fears.
  • Surround yourself with people who motivates you, keep you pushing and make you realize how special you are. Not the fake ones who are nothing and develop dependency in you.

 

“There are no such things as limits to growth, because there are no limits to the human capacity for intelligence, imagination, and wonder.” Ronald Reagan.

SUCCESSFUL RAISING

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There is no fixed formula or pattern to raise a child. The parenting styles varies from child to child, depending on the nature of the parents, availability of the parents, and the nature of the child.

Be like the way, you want your child to be. Provide them with the right kind of environment, for growth, stability in emotions, and capability to think in a free manner. Every child has their own set of demands, which they want to be fulfilled. Some children express it in the gentle manner, while other show aggression. It is important mold them in a more appropriate and acceptable behavior.

There is certainly no need to jump in every now and then to be a dictator, laying down rules, being pushy and over observant. Children like to spend sometime alone, playing, where they do not want to be judged and told whether they are right or wrong. So, give them a little space, if they want to play alone or with other children, let them. Elbowing your way in is quiet embarrassing for your child, especially in presence of other children.

From the start show the importance of manners, by exercising it yourself, like, PLEASE, THANK YOU, WELCOME, GOOD MORNING, BLESS YOU etc. The child will observe you and follow course, once it is established at an early age, rest of the manner hierarchy is achieved on its own.

Refrain yourself from being over protective, let them do things on their own. This part is the difficult one, especially for mothers. I guess I did, the same, and was told to stop doing it, as it is not good for all the right reasons. I really is difficult to see your child having a hard time climbing and while coming down having a fall, where you can not stop yourself from providing all the help you can think up of. RESTRAIN. This is the greatest challenge I assume. Let them struggle, it will develop their ability to learn new tactics and improving their mistakes, and learning better ways to approach a problem.

In order to exercise some rules at home, it is better to have some discipline first, where the child knows what things are done in what manner. Whether they can play first or do they homework, or where they can watch cartoon endlessly or play outside, or do cycling. What I think works is, the TIME TABLE. It is not necessary to be very rigid, but the baseline is there for every one to follow. Even kids will automatically start thinking in that way. For example, they know in evenings they have to finish their school home work, they might like to watch a little TV for their Cartoon show, for which you can give them a little time, and they themselves will off TV and come to their work desks to finish off their work. IT REALLY WORKS, IT IS WORKING WITH ME.

Be warm and kind, hugging and loving your child and telling them that you love them do wonders for their emotions. Instead of being angry, take a deep breath and tell them assertively what is wrong behavior and which behavior is acceptable. Keep on practicing, it will work, Patience is the key in achieving everything, remember that.

Don’t ever scold or raise your voice on your child, in presence of others. This is the most humiliating thing that you can do, for embarrassing them. It is always better, to go down on your knees and explain that the behavior they are showing is not acceptable, if they need something, they should ask for it slowly and using the words like please. That’s what I do when my child is throwing a tantrum in supermarket. It do works.

Be there for your kids, spend  quality time with them, rather thinking that you can buy smiles by giving them toys etc. It doesn’t last in the long run. Kids do remember the sharing time, playing time as a family. Quality time means, that you switch off TV, put away your cell phone, and play with them, hear them out, listen to them carefully and respond them in the kindest manner possible.

 

 

 

 

WAKEUP TO THE NEW YOU

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There are never ending complaint, about activities of which we are not part of, things we can’t get, love lost, unsatisfactory job, not so ideal home, and the list goes on.

Take charge of yourself, realize who you are and what you meant to do. Everything begins from you in the first place, be it anything, home, job, relationships, YOUR LIFE.

So why all these complaints?

If you are sluggish or feeling too low to move, having depressive outlook. BETTER START being active, take first step, head towards feeling fresh, have a make over, which boost your self esteem a lot. BELIEVE ME IT WILL DO WONDERS TO LIFT UP YOUR SPIRIT.

Deal with things, one at a time. Anything which is more troublesome should be dealt first. If you are not satisfied with your job, start looking for something which you wish to do since a long time. Staying in place, with low Job Satisfaction, affects productivity level and again is reflected in your attitude and general outlook of life. Follow your passion, anything you enjoy doing, painting, photography, having your own business. In short follow your dreams.

Healthy relationship, are important to keeping yourselves intact, having varied emotions and understanding how we react to situations which are demanding. Try to develop a good circle of friends, who are happy go lucky, who face adversity with a challenge, and have a positive outlook of life. These people boost your positive energy, and you have more better outlook to deal with hand on problems.

  •  Take things easy, never rush your decisions, think out a couple of times, analyzing the situation and then making a decision.
  •  Ego is the worst thing that you can do to yourself. No one has ever benefited from it. Let go of ego, and embrace the things with open heart.
  •  Challenge yourself, as it forces you to move, groom you to attempt in a better way.
  • Adapt to the changes in your life. It makes life easier.
  •  Come out from your comfort zone, nothing can be achieved just by sitting and relaxing. Best things in are achieved through struggle and hard work.
  •  Learn from your mistakes, experiences are the best teachers, leading you to a better path. Depending whether you are ready to learn or not.
  •  Embrace love openly without second thoughts, or being a judgmental.
  •  Wake up feeling energetic, and planing your day, focusing on positive aspects.
  •  Engage in activities that makes you happy.
  •  Exercise it is the energy booster.

Practice these things, and you will notice the changes in yourself.

GIVE GOOD AND GOOD WILL COME TO YOU.

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GIVE IT ALL

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Life comes with all sort of complexities, and demands, which the person has to resolve in order to be SOMEONE. Only when he or she wants to, it can not be forced from the second party. It depends only on the person what they want from life, whether its short term goals or the long ones.

Hard times comes in everyone’s life, but the way we deal with it defines our PERSONALITY, and set future course of our life pattern. Direct your life in a positive direction in order to lead a happy life. People who are giving in to situations and matters, that are difficult for them to handle, will always have an unhappy with their life, as they will never be contended. 

“Giving up”  things means that you are not prepared to deal with it, and opting out is considered as an easy way out, from that situation. Here I am not focusing on arguments, in which we engage every now and then. I am shedding a light on personality and related behavior pattern.

Giving up means you are with drawing yourself on basis of some possibilities. Giving up means you have no resilience, and you will always search for easy ways to get out of it. But how come you know that you are going to fail, until and unless you try it out. And even if you do fail, you have at least as sense of satisfaction, that you did your best, and you learn a lesson in doing it so. Be it a relationship that you value most, exam which you are attempting again, going through a rough patch in life, facing hurdles in job market etc.

Motivation, persistence, and believing that you are doing your best to make things work is the key to achieving your goals. Stand up to the challenges, to adversity, and don’t look for back doors. You will be harming yourself and others around you.

Giving in means you are not ready mentally and physically to take the pressure, and you end up making everyone else in-charge of your life. Accepting things and following decision or choices which are forced your way. You don’t have the courage to speak up, due to the pressure on you. But remember here that its you, who made other people in-charge of your life. By your submissive personality you are allowing others to direct your life in a direction where you don’t want to go. If you do that, you will be unhappy the rest of your life, brooding and have no sense of accomplishment.

As I always say, LIFE COMES BY ONLY ONE TIME, MAKE YOUR CHOICES WISELY. 

Give your best in everything you do, the relationships you engage in, the career you choose for yourself, etc. If you don’t try, you will never know, what the end result is. Facing failure doesn’t means that you are not good enough, rather it defines, that you are strong enough to see it to the very end, and still stay strong for improving it.

Take breaks, to revive your energy, to think over things, to relax and let go of negativity, and focusing things and thinking out possible actions to take. By having a break your mind will be fresh, and you will feel motivated, have positive thoughts, and make your self believe that you can do it, provided you give it a best shot with dedication.

So, why not give your best to things and do your best, by defining your life, the way you want to, in order to be satisfied and contended with sense of achievement. 

KNOWING THAT YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR OWN FATE.