CRUSH FEAR OF FAILURE

Sometimes we feel blocked and are unable to move ahead in life. When we introspect we come to know that the fear is stopping us from going ahead in life, stopping us from trying new things. It is important that we stop and think about our fears, and try to find out the reason behind it. Being scared and getting stuck at one place can never  lead us to success. This is true for most of us.

 

  • “There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible: the fear of failure. (Paulo Coelho).
  • “It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. (Theodore Roosevelt).
  • “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you will make one.” (Elbert Hubbard).
  • All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” ~Buddha.


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These sayings listed above do resonate with us at times when we think that we are unable to do or accomplish things in our life, most particularly in exams. Life is just not about getting what you want from yourself or what you want to be. Rather it’s about appreciating what you have and accepting what you have got. Life keeps us busy by giving us challenges, sometimes present us with hurdles. But what we need to do is look at the other side of the fence, just to encourage and appreciate ourselves, no matter how little we have or what we are at that current moment. Don’t just stop in mid-way, rather try again, putting your best, knowing that you can do with little more hard work. Overcome your fears.

Sometimes our fear might be due to personal factor, where we are ashamed of our own inability and our shortcomings. It also happens that we are afraid of being ridiculed by our classmates, disappointment of parents or probably afraid of losing teachers love when we fail in our exams.

Think about what went wrong with your failure and learn from your falling  Remove the fear of failure and consider an alternative to reach your goals. Progress from that point, improving and enhancing yourself in the process. Learn to think positively and work towards building your self-esteem, which sure will help you in overcoming your fear of failure.

YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

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Are you in pursuit to find yourself, searching for answers that you never thought of earlier? But have you thought of the most basic questions:

  • “Are you the real you?”
  • Have you ever thought that, “Whether you are doing what you are meant to do?”
  • “Have you reached the height of actualizing your potentials?”
  • “Are you connected to who you really are?”

I didn’t knew about it too, so many years ago I went to a self help group, where I was asked questions like these, whether I was connected to my core or not. Speechless as I was and shake my head in favor of NO. There I learned what connecting to your real self means. Its definitely not, which place I belong to, what role I am in, what profession I pursue. I was asked to write on a plain paper what I like in life, what I really see myself doing, what I love doing, what things make me cry, make me laugh, what things I enjoy the most, what my hobbies are. Making me realize which path to choose for myself in practical life. Even now I think of it, it warms me up, just by knowing who I really am, what I really should be doing. And I am again on the path to find the real Authentic Me.

The Trainer in that course made me realize and helped me in connecting to my core, finding who I really am. It is not the job that you do, not the social status that you have, but what your abilities, skills, aspirations, talents, and wisdom are. This defines your real self. Every one is unique, so are the abilities, the power of one’s wisdom, certain skills that are novel. All waiting to be explored to be acknowledged, expressed and to be worked on.

You can never be happy of satisfied from inside until you connect to your real self, attain your Authentic self, it is you who is the master of the game in your life, and no one else. Doing something forcefully which is not there in you will bring in negatives, and you will be drained of all the light which is in you. Discover who you really are, putting aside all the roles that are demanded of you, your pressures form your work, your other responsibilities.

Analyze yourself, start knowing your nature, what makes you tick, what your limitations are, what things you acquired in your behavior and attitude, how you interact with people, what your goals are in life, which things you can change in yourself and in your surrounding, what are the strengths and weaknesses in you, find out what guides you , motivates you, which relations are your strength, and which relations drag you. Each of us have a unique self,  unique potentials, and unique way of thinking,    this is Maslow’s Self Actualization, in Psychology of self.

“Real knowledge is to know the extent of one’s ignorance.”

Authentic Self means connecting the inner real you, with the outer image which is attributed to you. Authentic Self means that all is in congruence. And you have a deeper knowledge of yourself, by knowing your weaknesses you strengthen your positive points, by knowing your failings you work on your gains, you do things that are according to your beliefs and your value system. Expressing all the way your Authentic Self. You will a much fuller sense of your self, one which is more contending, relaxing, cherishing, and purposeful one. 

Being Authentic will make you confident, you will feel more positive, have a better insight in yourself and LIFE, greater self esteem, more emotionally intelligent, vital, and more creative. 

“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” ~ George Bernard Shaw.

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WAKEUP TO THE NEW YOU

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There are never ending complaint, about activities of which we are not part of, things we can’t get, love lost, unsatisfactory job, not so ideal home, and the list goes on.

Take charge of yourself, realize who you are and what you meant to do. Everything begins from you in the first place, be it anything, home, job, relationships, YOUR LIFE.

So why all these complaints?

If you are sluggish or feeling too low to move, having depressive outlook. BETTER START being active, take first step, head towards feeling fresh, have a make over, which boost your self esteem a lot. BELIEVE ME IT WILL DO WONDERS TO LIFT UP YOUR SPIRIT.

Deal with things, one at a time. Anything which is more troublesome should be dealt first. If you are not satisfied with your job, start looking for something which you wish to do since a long time. Staying in place, with low Job Satisfaction, affects productivity level and again is reflected in your attitude and general outlook of life. Follow your passion, anything you enjoy doing, painting, photography, having your own business. In short follow your dreams.

Healthy relationship, are important to keeping yourselves intact, having varied emotions and understanding how we react to situations which are demanding. Try to develop a good circle of friends, who are happy go lucky, who face adversity with a challenge, and have a positive outlook of life. These people boost your positive energy, and you have more better outlook to deal with hand on problems.

  •  Take things easy, never rush your decisions, think out a couple of times, analyzing the situation and then making a decision.
  •  Ego is the worst thing that you can do to yourself. No one has ever benefited from it. Let go of ego, and embrace the things with open heart.
  •  Challenge yourself, as it forces you to move, groom you to attempt in a better way.
  • Adapt to the changes in your life. It makes life easier.
  •  Come out from your comfort zone, nothing can be achieved just by sitting and relaxing. Best things in are achieved through struggle and hard work.
  •  Learn from your mistakes, experiences are the best teachers, leading you to a better path. Depending whether you are ready to learn or not.
  •  Embrace love openly without second thoughts, or being a judgmental.
  •  Wake up feeling energetic, and planing your day, focusing on positive aspects.
  •  Engage in activities that makes you happy.
  •  Exercise it is the energy booster.

Practice these things, and you will notice the changes in yourself.

GIVE GOOD AND GOOD WILL COME TO YOU.

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