Recently I read a book named “The Little Guide to Big Changes” by Sarah M. Collins, and by the time I was done with the first chapter Enliven your life through conscious change I began to ask myself questions.

  • Am I satisfied with my life?
  • Do I feel that I am trapped in any way in the present circumstances?
  • Am I frustrated, depressed or stressed out do to the happenings?
  • Is the thought of future makes me anxious, to the level of effecting my health?

Indeed change means that you are going to experience something which is new, something that might be beyond your control or power, probably a situation with which we are not familiar with. This thought makes us reluctant and we become scared of taking a plunge into the unseen. This thought of unfamiliarity stops us from changing our situation, ourselves, and our conditions.

It is the unknown that causes discomfort, because we always find solace in the knowing. Things or situations and I would add here people as well, with which we are familiar with or that are predictable are more easy for some people to tackle. While there are others who want to break free of this masochistic way of thinking. Those who are stuck and are reluctant in changing their life or not able to take a decision, might be finding  peace in all the things that are unpleasant. They feel safe in the miserable situations and continue on to be there rather than moving ahead with confidence and taking up the unknown.

Stop and think that if you break free of it, make a decision to change something in your life, and going to venture in the unseen, provided that you give time to settle the new situation or new experience you might actually feel better and you will feel accomplished. The real growth comes with change, when you are motivated to change your present for a brighter future or a better situation, or for a better opportunity. Even small steps will have a big impact on your life. Small decisions lay down the future pathways.

Start from inside what you want from yourself, from your surroundings, what you want to experience in life, what your aspirations are, are you willing to do something worthwhile in your life????

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Bring things in perspective and start the transformation.





We do face the problem of negative thinking. It might be due to any incident or event that has occurred and we find ourselves in the midst of negative thinking pattern. Sometimes it is so over-powering that it controls every aspect of our lives.

Personal beliefs, our principles and morals are the basis of our thoughts. Our low mood triggers negative thoughts and forms a chain reaction if we are unable to identify and stop it.

Become aware of your thought processes, simply acknowledging that they exist, helps in managing the negative thoughts. Our thoughts are automatic and fast, they keep on popping up and bombarding us, more so when they are negative.
 Thoughts that are more stressful or depressing should be dealt with first. Think about it, as they are the root cause of your negativity. When our beliefs are not matched with the outside world the distress creeps in. Identify the cause behind stress, despair and depression.
 Negative thoughts lead to negative outcomes. If you are depressed you will be thinking of negative outcomes, like failure in exams, unable to submit assignments on time, inability to concentrate, hopelessness etc. In order to break free of this destructive negative thinking pattern, become aware how they work and on what bases.
 Beliefs and values should be your main focus, as to see from where negative thinking is generating. Try to get control of things and situations before they become over whelming.
 Be optimistic, as it plays a key role in addressing negative thinking. The optimistic person accepts the facts and searches for solutions, while a pessimist attributes the factors that are not even in the situation, thus making the problem bigger than it was in reality.
 Focus on positive emotions and feelings, and replace the old thoughts by it. Think creatively and positively of the solutions, set achievable goals, and move away from negative triggers in the environment. Manage your negative emotions and feelings, this takes time, and your stress or depression will not simply vanish after it. But you will learn how to be a positive thinker.

If you continue to be negative, you will be attracting more negativity in life.
Let go of it and surround yourself with positive thoughts, you will be much happier.



“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects”……ALBERT EINSTEIN.

If you look around you might notice that there are some people who work hard and are in a continuous process of determination, putting in effort, BUT they don’t seem to get anywhere worth mentioning. They live their life aimlessly, not knowing where to go, and their all efforts are not enough to meet their destiny.

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score”………… Bill Copeland

GOAL setting is very important, it gives you a sense of direction, a path to follow, shows you a way to reach your destiny. It provides insight in problems, in ways of handling your present and shaping your future. It helps you in knowing what you really want from your life, and what you want to achieve in life. It tells you which step you took, that were wrong, or would you can do to take a different alternative path, and make you see things clearly, shaping you entire LIFE. You than put all your efforts in the right direction knowing that will help you in achieving your motives.

Goal setting help you in motivating yourself, and you analyse your steps that you have to take, it helps you in making an action plan, giving you MEANINGFUL LIFE.

You can realize your dreams, attain heights of your desire and wishes, keep yourself happy and those associated with you. You taste success, happiness and inner satisfaction.

Goals help you in having a satisfied life, managing your finances, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, provide you inner growth, enhances your creativity and much more.

“The power of goals can only be felt when you make goals and taste success”……… PARISA KHAN.


“Focus on what need to be done, and leave behind what went wrong, or what you could have done”.

As we pass our days, thought of things that went wrong, and brought us to a point in life, where we do not admire our standing, do cross our minds. Life is not a laid out plan, we make plans on basis of our inspirations, aspirations, our needs, our responsibilities, and our need to have peace within that comes from knowing of who we are and what we want.

Some people like myself, do want goals and plans in life, thinking out rationally and practically what needs to be done, which have better outcomes, and to somehow have a sound future. Meanwhile learning from mistakes that occurred, and stopping our so active mind to ponder on things that went wrong, decisions that lead us to a tight spot.

The key is to be consistent in your thoughts and actions, and awareness of your present and making decisions wisely and sticking to them. Being hesitant is going to lead you nowhere. Being afraid of things, people and situations would too be of no use, and you will be standing at the same point from where you started. Learn to take some risks where required, it give you more confidence and your mind will clear of doubts which you have about your self.

Ignore people who say bad things regarding you, avoid situations which you know would be difficult for you to handle. Take responsibility of your actions. No matter if times are hard, and you are farther away from your goals, keep your focus, keep positive, and keep on moving, stopping will attract negative thoughts and keep you away from your destiny.







These lines crossed my mind some time back, and I thought of sharing it here. We are often faced with the dilemma of choosing a path that is less stressful, among the others. Or choosing a completely different path, in order to change our lives or our situations.

If we sincerely want to take a big step to a greater goal, lots of effort is required. Thinking something, is not enough, until you act on it, or until you put your thoughts into actions.

I am taught from an early age by my beloved mother:

  • No pain no gain.
  • No game without risks.

Doing something big always involve risks, in taking some steps we hesitate, and become confused. And we a re forced to think again and again the same point where we are stuck, thing causes confusion in our mind, and we loose our confidence. This in turn closes our mind for rational thinking, or stops us from analyzing the situation in a positive manner.

After we cross this stage of turning our sails in a favorable direction we succumb to lack of motivation, and become tired of pushing harder in the direction of our goals.

Wait and just think. if you keep on doing that and keep on saying that you are tired of putting efforts and nothing fruitful is coming out. You are making your self believe that you  can not do more. Don’t send these negative messages to your mind. Because it will act the way your believe system is developing.

Choosing something for ourselves is not that much of a problem for most of the people, staying motivated and persistent is the main problem, that most of us face. If you start having doubts about your selection, fear of future or its results, will sweep in. This believe will make you feel trapped, and you will not be able to focus on the matter at hand.


  • Keep yourself motivated by realizing and making yourself believe that it will work out eventually, even if it not working the way you want it to right now.
  • Take one step at a time, and consider it as a great milestone.
  • Don’t be scared of the results, if you start concentrating how it will turn out, you will never be able to give it your best.
  • Concentrate on your goals and  your plan of action.
  • Never let anyone put you down.
  • Do not take approval from people who do not understand your vision.

If you have your eyes on your goals, and are determined for achieving something, which really matters to you, you will never fail.